Sex and Sexuality for the Developmentally Challenged, continued

Sex and Sexuality for the Developmentally Challenged, continued

Patterns of Woundedness that Put Men and Women at Risk of Sexual Exploitation

  • Lack of education regarding sexual abuse.
  • Overt sexual or psychological invasion in childhood, which fosters an inability to establish and/or  maintain boundaries, and difficulty distinguishing between sexual and nonsexual.
  • Being raised to meet the expectations of others.
  • Profound childhood aloneness.
  • Lack of acknowledgment and/or recognition.
  • Exploited compassion.
  • Devalued outer potential

Patterns of Woundedness that Put Male Pastoral Counsellors

at Risk of Being Sexually Exploitive

  • Society’s sexualization of relationships.
  • Modelling themselves on parents who themselves had problems maintaining appropriate boundaries.
  • A mother who was a victim.
  • Emotional deprivation in his relationship with his mother.
  • Repression/suppression of “feminine” qualities within himself.
  • Lack/loss of appropriate father-son intimacy in the counsellor’s history.
  • Overdependence on the feminine for intimacy.

FOOTNOTES

  1. Much of this material has been taken from Heggen, Sexual Abuse in Christian Homes and Churches .  While it was written with male clergy in mind, most of these same factors also apply to female clergy and to male and female leaders of both sexes, including camp counsellors.

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