Sex and Sexuality for the Developmentally Challenged, continued

Sex and Sexuality for the Developmentally Challenged, continued 

It dealing with morality issues, it is often helpful for the clinician to ask, “What’s wrong with (e.g., stealing), anyway? The individuals’ responses will tell you something about their moral reasoning level, which is where you have to start – always start where your client is – if you are going to help them develop beyond that. Within the context of the sexual abuse of children, one might as:

“WHAT’S WRONG WITH SEX BETWEEN ADULTS AND CHILDREN, ANYWAY?”

For your own information, sexual abuse has a number of undesirable affects:

In general :

  • It interferes with the normal development of sexuality; and because sexuality is such a large part of our lives, that interferes with normal development in general.
  • It destroys trust, and interferes with the victim’s ability to establish normal relationships with others.
  • It teaches the victim that the world is a place to be feared, and it interferes with his or her ability to regulate his or her feelings.
  • It destroys the victim’s hope for the future.
  • It interferes with the development of self-esteem.
  • It is very soul-destroying.

But why does that happen?  It happens partly because of the age at which the victim is introduced to adult sexuality, but the main culprit is the power differential between the offender and his or her victim.  That is, the victim becomes an object to be used for someone else’s pleasure, and that teaches the victim very negative things about him- or herself.

Within the context a religious home, or within the context of the church:

  • It can produce a profound cynicism about religion.
  • It often alienates the person from his or her congregation.
  • It interferes with the person’s relationship with God.

And by the way, almost all abusers continue to abuse if given the chance. In my opinion, permanent probation, following any sentence, should be mandatory.

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